When we are all young, we tend to learn some lessons the hard and painful way. Sometimes, it takes a long time to realize that we have been doing something wrong or adopting the wrong attitude and no one in our lives actually help us to address them. In short, we tend to learn some lessons by ourselves and by the time we learn those lessons, we already lose something valuable like time or friendships.
Of course, there is an unlimited things that children can learn, but here are the three lessons that I want children to learn from me:
1) It is perfectly fine to make mistakes.
Some parents tend to be quite strict on their children and some of them tend to punish their children when they do something the parents believe are incorrect. For example, when a child makes too many mistakes in their homework or has difficulty trying to speak eloquently, their parents tend to be quite hard on them and scold them for their excessive mistakes and slowness in grasping knowledge.
I believe punishment is not the right way to teach children to learn from their mistakes. Parents may not be fully aware of this but when young children are dealt with harsh punishments, it actually affects them psychologically and mentally. Children may develop insecurities about themselves that they are not good enough due to not meeting their parents' high expectations and fear about making mistakes.
To me, it is the attitude towards those mistakes that matters. Children should be taught that life is a lifelong learning experience and that mistakes help us improve on ourselves. Mistakes do not define them, neither do they attach a stigma to their very being.
Everyone makes mistakes. There is no such thing as a perfect and flawless human being. As a helpful and concerned community, we help each other out by pointing out each other's mistakes and always allow a huge room for improvement.
2) Ignore your haters.
Unfortunately, everyone has haters - that is people who totally dislike you for who you are. Not everything that you do is going to be well-received by everyone. As you present yourself to more and more people, your likelihood to have haters is going to increase and there is no stopping the number of haters.
What you can do is to embrace all the positive comments and ignore your haters. It is a simple thing to advise but it is rather difficult to execute especially when the hatred towards you is on such an unimaginable level. Sometimes, it is as if your haters are so deeply affected by your actions and attitudes that they just cannot seem to erase you from their memories. It is as if they are in love with you but are too proud to admit it. You don't have to change yourself for these haters if you think what you are doing is you being true to yourself. Change only for yourself, not others.
Haters simply do not have the right to tell you how to live your life.
3) Always look at the bright side.
It is really hard to maintain positivity when you facing so many obstacles in life. Even if the good things in life are too few to count, be grateful that you have them and appreciate them for the happiness they give you. Of course, when you focus on only positive things, I do not mean only focus on them and ignore the negative sides of your life. At time, these sources of negativity are temporary and sometimes serve as tests to achieve positivity. So, always persevere and aim for ultimate happiness!
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